This problem exists and I can imagine no circumstances that would justify such behavior.
People like to be controlled! A controlling partner typically feels that they have the right to know more than they actually do.
Even if the two people have a common problem, it is unlikely that 1 it is really urgent, 2 they have a best solution in common, and 3 joint action is necessary.
And, when caught lying, he expresses to remorse or embarrassment.
You can also show signs that you agree with her, and you are willing to create a plan about it.
Again, signs of control often start subtly.
At first, they appeal to your deepest vanities and vulnerabilities, observing and mimicking exactly what they think you want to hear.
Feeling you have to check-in for any decision Control freaks in relationships like to exercise authority over all decisions.